Letting the small things go!

Lately I have been thinking about how much energy I put into things that do not really deserve my energy. 

Obviously some things need our energy. I’m not talking about the big stuff, that’s a different conversation. I’m talking about the small things. A comment that sticks with you, when you said the wrong thing at the wrong time, the minor inconvenience that just steals your entire day.

I said something the other day and the moment passed BUT my head just kept replaying that moment over and over and I felt “dumb” lol. I realized that it took up much more space in my mind that it actually should. That’s just one example. 

However, I did not notice how often I was holding on to them until I felt exhausted at the end of the day and did not know why. I was just so mentally tired because my mind kept replaying things and moments that did not need to be replayed or needed to be “revisited”. These moments and thoughts take energy without you even realizing. 

I thought that I needed to hold onto everything, I thought I needed to process all my emotions. However, instead of making me feel better It made me more tense. Processing the small things as if they were large made me stay “Always On”. 

The truth is that the small things are not personal. People are distracted, tired, they dont care. Not every moment in your life is intentional. Not every moment in your life is a message. Not everything requires a response or a reaction from you. 

So from now on, I am making a commitment of letting the small things go. Letting the small things go does not mean that you don’t care or that you’re neglecting your feelings or even lowering your standards. For me, it means that I am saving energy for other things and freeing up space in my mind for myself. 

It’ll take practice but I am getting in the habit of asking myself “Will this matter tomorrow?” Will this matter in a month or a year?

Most of the time the answer is no. 

I find myself catching myself in the moment, catching a breath, and then letting the moment pass. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I don't but at least I’m trying. 

Life already asks a lot from us. The bigs need our attention, the small things don't need to stick with us.

I’m learning that sometimes peace isn't found by doing more. It’s found by letting go.